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The Importance Of Asking For Help

The Importance Of Asking For Help


When I was about 3-years-old I was riding my tricycle barefoot and managed to get my big toe stuck in the spokes of the wheel. Can you say ouch?! I wasn't supposed to be riding without shoes so I didn't want to call to my mom for help and get in trouble, but I was fearful that she would hear me crying. My next-door neighbor who I didn't know very well at the time saw me. Thankfully, he was nice enough to come over and rescue my foot. Whew! Boy, was I relieved and he didn't even tell my mother ... until a couple days later at least!    


When it comes to asking for help with our organizing efforts, it can be a lot like the situation I shared above.  


Getting physically stuck in a situation and not knowing how to get out can be painful. Often folks are depressed, stressed, anxious, and overwhelmed by their clutter to the point that they are paralyzed about what to do. In this situation, it's important to recognize that you're not alone and that the difficult place you're in can be improved.   


  • Knowing that you're doing something you shouldn't be doing, ie; collecting too much stuff, pushing away others with your belongings, and diminishing your quality of life can make you feel unworthy of help. Remember we all make mistakes, but these don't define us.  
  • Realizing that crying out to get help can be scary because you don't want others to know that you are weak and vulnerable. Sometimes you have to move out of your comfort zone and give up some control in order to head in a positive direction.
  • Accepting help from someone you don't know, like a mental health professional, can bring about feelings of fear, anxiety, shame, and insecurity. There are many treaters who you can trust. Being supportive, compassionate, nonjudgmental, and empathetic are all aspects of our job.  
  • Experiencing relief when someone actually does reach out to help you in a genuine and heartfelt manner can be a lifesaver and make you feel infinitely better. Trust that the process of therapy can work and will improve so many aspects of your day-to-day functioning.  


I hope the next time you're in a jam with your clutter and disorganization, that you think of this scenario. It's no fun being stuck in a situation that doesn't support you. Asking for help is often the first step in the chain of events to get to a better place.


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Categories: Mental Health / Hoarding


  • I love the point you make that sometimes in order to feel more in control of things, we need to let go of some control while reaching out for help. It's not an easy thing to do. But as you said, if you find the right professional to help that you trust, is nonjudgmental, supportive and compassionate, it can be a wonderful and liberating experience.
    4/9/2018 10:35:14 AM Reply
  • It's been my experience that once you speak with a counselor, you feel tremendous relief. The secret is out, the pressure is released. You discover that what you felt the need to hide is actually common, and that many others have the same struggles. So many, in fact, that there are resources available to step in an offer non-judgmental help. Independence has its place, but often I think it is overvalued. Most societies acknowledge the benefit of working as a team.
    4/6/2018 10:08:36 AM Reply
    • @Seana Turner: Completely agree with your sentiments, Seana. There is a tremendous weight that people carry thinking they have to handle it all by themselves, but once they seek out support, it can be so freeing. The team approach is so valuable and can help you feel less isolated and validated.
      4/6/2018 12:10:24 PM Reply

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