When I was about 3-years-old I was riding my tricycle barefoot and managed to get my big toe stuck in the spokes of the wheel. Can you say ouch?! I wasn't supposed to be riding without shoes so I didn't want to call to my mom for help and get in trouble, but I was fearful that she would hear me crying. My next-door neighbor who I didn't know very well at the time saw me. Thankfully, he was nice enough to come over and rescue my foot. Whew! Boy, was I relieved and he didn't even tell my mother ... until a couple days later at least!
When it comes to asking for help with our organizing efforts, it can be a lot like the situation I shared above.
Getting physically stuck in a situation and not knowing how to get out can be painful. Often folks are depressed, stressed, anxious, and overwhelmed by their clutter to the point that they are paralyzed about what to do. In this situation, it's important to recognize that you're not alone and that the difficult place you're in can be improved.
- Knowing that you're doing something you shouldn't be doing, ie; collecting too much stuff, pushing away others with your belongings, and diminishing your quality of life can make you feel unworthy of help. Remember we all make mistakes, but these don't define us.
- Realizing that crying out to get help can be scary because you don't want others to know that you are weak and vulnerable. Sometimes you have to move out of your comfort zone and give up some control in order to head in a positive direction.
- Accepting help from someone you don't know, like a mental health professional, can bring about feelings of fear, anxiety, shame, and insecurity. There are many treaters who you can trust. Being supportive, compassionate, nonjudgmental, and empathetic are all aspects of our job.
- Experiencing relief when someone actually does reach out to help you in a genuine and heartfelt manner can be a lifesaver and make you feel infinitely better. Trust that the process of therapy can work and will improve so many aspects of your day-to-day functioning.
I hope the next time you're in a jam with your clutter and disorganization, that you think of this scenario. It's no fun being stuck in a situation that doesn't support you. Asking for help is often the first step in the chain of events to get to a better place.
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